Lately I have come across many articles saying how you would never recognize the stars of 80’s TV series and movies. These articles compare images from 30, 40 years ago with today’s (usually unflattering paparazzi) shots and want us to get shocked how XY actor/actress got old and we wouldn’t recognize them on the street.
And what’s my problem with not being able to recognize them? In my opinion time leaves its sign on all of us and these posts only make the pressure higher: remain young, at any cost. However age is also just a number and just as living in peace with the numbers on your scale, it is time to embrace age, too!
In my book I called my wrinkles a memory map and I believe it is all about the perspective. The lines on your forehead are there as you had to face difficult situations in the past (and you did it so well!), the wrinkles around your lips are memories of having great time with beloved ones and laughing hard, the sun spots are there to remind you of those holidays you were lucky to go on and the stretchmarks on your belly are signs of protecting a new life for months. Why would you be ashamed of your lovely or hard past memories? Thanks to those you have become that strong and wise woman you are today. Why would you erase those?
Moreover, if you are getting old that means…
- … you got one more year to live, to see a wedding, to spend more time with your children, to take care of your friendships and to do whatever you want. Since becoming older also means becoming more independent, conscious and it means to have less pressure to please others.
- … you have learnt to appreciate what you got. You already know that kindness or someone taking care of you are never granted and at any moment you can lose all you have so you take care of those more. You start seeing everything as a precious treasure, whether it is your partner or your morning coffee ritual. You are grateful for all.
- …you start taking care of yourself more. Not only your soul but your body too. A sickness or a death in your surroundings can some as wake up calls and you see that health is really precious and it is time to take better care of yourself. You become more self-aware and start taking steps for your well-being.
So why on earth should you or any Baywatch TV series star feel ashamed if the past 10, 20 or 30 years have left their signs, but not only wrinkles but lessons, joy and wisdom came with them too. Let’s embrace that your skin is not the one of a teenage girl but thankfully your wisdom is not either. And you know what really matters, right?
So ladies, I am encouraging you to live peace with your age and don’t get into the wicked media game of age shaming!