Ciao Bella,
It may not come to you as a surprise when I say that feeling sexy naked has nothing to do with your weight. Of course if you have some parts which constantly give you a headache and would love to change them, go for it because it is your body, your rules. However just know, there will always be something you are not so much fond of when it comes to your body. It is partly human nature but pop culture and the media condition us this way too (do you remember the scene from Mean girls when they tear themselves apart in front of the mirror, complaining about too big skin pores? Yeah, that is what I refer to). So it all comes down to the usual thruth of all decided in the head and you need to do the inside job.
How many times you pulled on nervously the sheet or the towel to cover up so they can’t see you? How many times you run quickly in front of (or away from) the mirror so while getting dressed you don’t need to see that naked sight? How many times you wondered if your partner is contemplating about how fat or ugly your body is while looking at you?
You are not alone and even the most self-confident woman gets doubts sometimes. You can be confident at one area of life yet you would avoid every occasion to get naked because of your insecurities. If that is the case, go on reading, this is for you how to make peace with your naked self!
1. Baby steps
When I advise you to stand naked in front of the mirror, your reaction may be rejection since how on earth could you do that? But if I ask you to add it little by little to your daily routine, believe me, it is absolutely possible. Start with baby steps of doing a usual activity naked like your makeup in the morning. The more time you spend in your birthday suit, the more natural your relationship will be with your naked self. You won’t stare at the bumps and rolls since you focus on putting on those eyeliners and you take only a short glance at your body sometimes. If it makes you more relaxed, start with only topless naked. A step closer!
2. Naked in the dark
If the makeup idea naked seemed too hardcore, start sleeping naked. Whether alone or with your partner, test this exercise. You may run a sprint at first when switching off the lamp but slowly you will get used to your body, your curves and shape, how the sheet (or your partner) touches you and once you become natural, being naked won’t scare you anymore. Even with the lights on or in front of the mirror!
3. Focus on one thing!
If you decide to try the mirror exercise, it is important to pick one part first which you really like about yourself. It can be your pretty face, your calf or your toned arms, I am sure you will find something and that thing will be your hold-on part. Once you catch yourself hating on some other parts, direct your attention back: wow, how pretty my face is/how well toned my calf is/ how strong my arm is and pay attention to those things you love about yourself. You can make a list (yeah, there will be more body parts you fall in love with, I guarantee) of them as a love reminder.
4. The surroundings
Since you are about to conquer a dreadful territory (standing naked in front of the mirror), make sure to create an atmosphere which relaxes you nicely. Be alone so no one can surprise (or bother) you when you feel the most vulnerable. Some people like to light scented candles (yeah, romantic but hey, it is your longest relationship we work on, the one with yourself so let it be romantic) while for me Beyonce or Pink work to feel empowered. Not their looks as comparison but the power coming from their songs, the feminist vibes always lift me up and make me believe I am a superwoman, naked or not. So put up the volume and put your crown on.
5. People around you
As I stated at the beginning, how you see yourself is an inside job. Of course the negatives voices in our heads are many times fuelled by people around us. A bad joke, a mean comment and it gets under our skin and we start to doubt whether we are good/sexy/hot enough or not. However remember one thing: those who don’t find you hot enough they don’t deserve to see you naked. Period. Try to stay away from them and surround yourself with people who accept you the way you are.
