I have heard many stories recently (whether a break-up one or a dating story) about how problematic men are. Why they don’t grow up, why they only use women, why they don’t have goals in life and as long as there is truth in each line, I can’t help but wonder:
Are you a girl or a woman?
Obviously it is not your age that gives the answer to my theoretical question above but your level of maturity: do you really know yourself and are you aware of your worth? Do you deal with your life challenges as a woman or you are more like a playful little girl chasing happiness like butterflies? Have you really invested enough time and energy to become a confident woman who knows what she wants and left your little girl who throws tantrums behind?
- Girls are princesses, women see it for real
Sure you can recall the picture when a little girl is being complemented on her beauty? Many girls are stuck at this level and they are convonced that the only way to get appreciated is to look good. They expect to be treated as princesses and they are not afraid to use their physical features to get along. On the other hand, while a woman is aware of her physical beauty, she knows that her worth is way beyond her look: she knows her stregths, knowledge, abilities and she doesn’t have expectations, she has standards she keep herself to.
- Girls wait for the prince on white horse, women built a carriage that functions without a horse
We have learnt from fairy tales long time ago that princesses are there to be saved by the prince arriving on a white horse. Those, however, who realize that they have so much more to do than just waiting, they start actually building their lives and not expecting it from a man. A confident man is a great add to a conscious woman who is not afraid to work on herself and while she is happy with her own self, she can be happy with a man too.
- Girls throw tantrums, women respond
How do girls get what they want? They throw tantrums, they scream and so on. The proven way to push their will onto their parents. As soon as things are nota s girls want them to be, the pouted lips come to scene. A woman doesn’t react to happenings but she responds. She also feels the anger, disappointment or nervousness but communication is crucial for her so she controls her emotions and responds and tries to find a solution.
- Girls compete, women support
Little girls often feel insecure and to gain attention, they start competing with the other girls. They want to be the center of attention so they can get some self-valuation and affection. A woman does the opposite: instead of competing, she supports other women because she knows that there is a slice for every woman in that cake. A woman knows that another woman’s values (and achievements) don’t decrease her own.
- A girl wants it all, a woman wants only one
Those with low self-confidence continuously try to compensate and they always in the search of finding possible self-confidence sources outside. Girls need the attention, appreciation and mad love of men to build their own self-esteem. Girls want all (at least the selected ones) men to admire them and fall in front of their feet. A woman knows and respects her worth and expects the same amount of respect from a man as well. A man, the one she selects. One is perfectly enough for her since she lives a full life already on her own so if a man wants to join her, that journey must be built on mutual respect.
- Girls play, women live
Girls love to live their lives as if it was a mind game. If I say this then he will do that, if i don’t call then he will react this way and so on – just the usual way of thinking for a girl. Mind games that a woman doesn’t play anymore. She keeps her own integrity and „just” live according to that. She answers according to her best knowledge as she trusts her own judgement and her own self for which she doesn’t even need games to play.
- Girls are energy vampires, women are chargers
Visions, plans, goals and a moral compass – girls unfortunately don’t possess any of these therefore they often contradict their own self. They don’t have boundaries set so they can get confused easily and spending time with girls feel more of an energy loss than gain. A woman has a clear vision or at least has been working on it and her passion for life fills up the man next to her, too.
Since neither maturity nor self-confidence is a matter of age, you can start this journey at any part of your life. It is never too late to come to peace with yourself so you can create the same peace around you, too.