My latest Facebook live broadcast was again a hot topic as I talked about expectations whether we should have them or not?
Before mentioning exact cases, let’s clarify what is an expectation? It is an imagined picture of the future, the expected unfold of events, a guaranteed wish, a demanded behaviour.
Being the same as our partner is a strong wish in every human relationship, both romantic or friendships as well. The wish to be like you paired with expectations that you will also want to be like me. It is human nature to try to minimise the tension caused by the differences between two people and we use this „I want to be like you – I expect you to be like me” dual behaviour patterns to do that.
But remember that you want to influence another person whose differences may have been their most attractive features for you earlier and now you want them to lose those. The remedy is acceptance (as always). Accept them as they are, not how you want them to be!
You are encouraged to talk about your needs and wishes of course but do not expect those to be fulfilled by another human (as in most of the cases, it is only you who can do that). Noone can be forced to act how you expect them to do so.
Expectations also limit the possible outcome of events because what if something better would come along than your expecation? Different but better? Be open and receive! See the reason, the motivation behind the acts of another person which compassionate act can ease your disappointment too.
Expectations put you into prison, especially when you want to live your life according to others and their expectations. Remember, you can not please everyone!
A negative and sour soul usually expects happiness from others. Instead of expecting things, why don’t you become curious and open to what life brings you next? Kids get so lost in the process of drawing and enjoy art itseld, instead of worrying about the end result. Be like them and take their example for living your life!
Stay tuned for next week’s #livePLUS topic and notes in English afterwards!