In my latest Facebook live broadcast I shared a few lessons I have learnt during the years when it comes to self-confidence which I wish I would have known a few years back. I do not mind the experience and learning though, I just could have saved some hard moments if I knew these:
- Never trade respect for attention!
You have to respect yourself instead of waiting for validation from others while you make them pay attention to you. It is much wiser to start building your self-respect by being aware of your values and knowing your worth. If you may find it difficult at first, just surround yourself with people who show you respect and appreciate you for who you are. Learn from them!
- Opinions are NOT facts!
It is enough if you like your decision, others don’t need to and in fact, the more you like your choice, the less you need others’ approval. Whether it is an oufit you choose or a man to love, it is your call and you have to live with it, not anyone else. I just wish I knew that it is an illusion to think that everybody will love me. I had to learn the hard way that I can’t please everyone and now I even do not want to. And if someone doesn’t like the way I am, I do not have to change, I just need to remain and be myself and the right people will like me, no matter what.
- You are stronger than you think!
Throughout the years I got some smaller and bigger slaps on the face from life, like anyone else and there were so hard setbacks that I doubted if I could ever stand up again. However human mind (and body, too) is incredible, it is so much stronger than we think and with the time and wisdom you can survive evrything! Sometimes it means to focus on only one thing during the day, or on the next situp. Remember, you have what it takes!
- If you want to fly, let go off your holdbacks!
Letting go has always been a hard lesson for me, whether it is things or people, I wrote about it in a chapter in my very first book, too. Now I know that in order tol et life flow and bring you new things, you need to let some things go. A negative thought or your doubts, they need to go. And always remember, validation doesn’t come from the outside, you need to feel it from within that you are enough and worthy!
- If you never ask, the answer is always NO!
How many sleepless nights I could have saved if I knew I need to dare to ask. A new job, a school project, a salary increase or that cute guy for a coffee. No means not now and not like this so if that is your true passion and wish, try it again in a different way and time. Go for it and have faith!