Finally every piece is falling to the right place in my life, literally speaking as my transition back to Budapest is complete so I can focus on my mission. That means more Facebook Live shows and since they are in Hungarian I thought to share the written summary of each show not only in my mothertongue but also in English so my non-Hungarian community members can understand them as well.
The topic of my #livePLUS on 25 July was the ideal bodyshape and everything related to it, mostly self-image and body image. But what is body image?
Body image is how you see yourself in the mirror and in your mind. It is affected by many external factors such as
- what do you believe about yourself and the way you look. All your past memories, experiences contribute here, together with generalization and stereotypes. Like skinny, small breasted women are not feminine or that bigger women are lazy.
- what you feel about your body
- how you feel yourself within your body, including body posture and the way you walk.
Negative body image
- when the image you have about yourself is distorted, including seeing certain body parts not the way they really are. Usually you don’t believe your friends/relatives who say the contrary.
- when you find everyone else attractive but yourself. You understand this negative body as a personal failure.
- when you feel ashamed or anxious when it comes to your body.
Positive body image
- if you see yourself objectively, together with your flaws. Including body parts, too.
- if you have accepted yourself and you know, looks reveal nothing about personal values.
- if your life doesn’t reveal around food, counting calories and weights.
Sport and being healthy are crucial in our lives so my answer to the #TuesdayQuestion (check it HERE) is: the ideal body shape to me is healthy. But once counting calories rule over anything else in your life, you enter the orthorexia territory. Did you know that such thing as bigorexia exist? It is the belief of being too small, not muscled enough.
But what is the solution, how can you improve your body image? You can, for example start with writing your PLUS list (download my graphic for free HERE or simply just take a piece of paper): start writing down your values, the things you love about yourself so you can focus on what you love instead of what you hate. In the process to accept my big belly I reached back to gratitude: my belly holds together all my organs so I am thankful for that!
It is also important that you admire diversity but you don’t forget to appreciate your own uniqueness. Don’t compare yourself to others and remember: another woman’s beauty does not take away yours!
Last but not least, instead of focusing on calories, set healthy and fit goals for yourself. Improve yourself and be better than you were yesterday or last year.