Melo, the strong yet gentle warrior
Susie: Can you please briefly introduce yourself?
Melo: I’m Melo Garcia and I’m a grief specialist and coach. I am known as @AfterChloe. www.AfterChloe.com is my website that I assist individuals to get through the grief and loss he/she is experiencing. I reside in Southern California where I was born and raised.
Susie: If you have to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?
Melo: The one word I would use to describe myself is optimistic. I believe everything is going to work out the way it should.
Susie: Have you ever had challenges with accepting yourself or body image issues in general?
Melo: From the time I turned 16 and my height caused me to become self conscious. As well as problems with my skin throughout my teenage years into my twenties.
Susie: How did you overcome these challenges?
Melo: I don’t think I became comfortable with myself until my father died in 2010, then my daughter Chloe in 2011 and finally my mom in 2012. These losses have caused me to realize that the gift of life is far more important and significant than how I stress about my outer appearance. The processing of the losses in my life have helped me to become way more comfortable with myself.
Susie: How do you take care about your self-esteem and boost your self-confidence?
Melo: Self confidence is a requirement for what I do in my life both personally and professionally. To overcome loss of death, divorce, ending relationships that no longer serve my life. To serve others I must practice what I teach. Only self love can create the basis of allowing others to get through loss. Being gentle with one’s self is a requirement for overcoming loss and gentleness only comes from self-love. My personal journey with my self-esteem has ups and downs. My self esteem is always evolving to allow myself to be the best I can be. God, supportive friends, good books and me practicing self care are all requirements for me to continue my journey of self esteem.
Susie: Can you describe the last time when you felt beautiful? What did you wear, where were you, what were you doing?
Melo: The last time I felt beautiful is when I think about being Chloe’s mom and that is my greatest accomplishment. I feel beautiful anytime I think of being her mother.
Susie: Please finish the sentence: You need self-confidence in your life because…
Melo: Self-esteem is a requirement for me because I want to make the most of the life I have, I want to feel beautiful.
Susie: What is that certain PLUS that can make a woman look beautiful?
Melo: A huge plus in my mind is when an individual’s shows him or herself gentleness. It’s imperative that everyone learns to be gentle with themselves. Also an individual who begins to understand that loss is inevitable but he or she can learn to make it through, while letting go of the pain but always remembering the love.
As you listen to her Periscope shows (@AfterChloe) you will understand the true meaning of overcoming loss. This woman is a strong warrior of God who never stopped believeing that there is life after loss. She lost so many important people (including the most precious little angel, baby Chloe which is the biggest tragedy for a mother) yet never stopped believing. She taught me that loss can come in various forms: letting go of old friends, letting go of people who don’t serve your life purpose anymore, letting go of opportunities which you grabbed so hard yet failed to be fulfilled. If you also need help in the #lettinggo process, please reach out to this wonderful woman! Beside her daily shows, Instagram & Twitter encouragements (same handle, @AfterChloe or simply just click on the links above) you can get personal support via her current 30 day program of #lettinggo, details HERE.
I’m the luckiest to know this Beauty with PLUS whom I have the honour to call my friend, my sister, my bella!