I often refer to the relationship you have with your own self like a work in progress: you have to put the same effort in it as you put into other relationships. Or even more! The base of all love is self-love and you need to respect and love yourself first before anyone else!
By our thirties (some of us earlier) we learn which men to avoid dating. I put together an imaginary shortlist and I would like you to think over these typyes: are you any of these when it comes to our behaviour towards yourself? Be prepared as some answers may surprise you!
The one who hates women
He has so much hate and bitterness within that he continuously poisons his environment. He has negative comments about others, especially females, and his philosophy is that females are secondary and must be limited to cooking (though we even can’t fulfill that role perfectly, according to him). His passion is to find every bit of spot he can cling on and criticize. And you, my Beauty? Are you your own biggest enemy and criticize your morning look, your work failures and think of yourself as nothing special? Someone who doesn’t deserve love?
The super smart one
That one who always lectures you how to change the stick while driving, who thinks you live in a bubble with no views on current situation and Donald Trump’s name is unknown to you. He loves correcting you since he is always smarter than you. And you, my Beauty? Are you too scared to start the job since you are sure there would be always someone better than you to do it? Do you really believe that magazines know better who is truly beautiful?
The cheap guy
He invites you for dinner but insists to go Dutch when it comes to paying the bill (which is nothing wrong but maybe some gentleman genes should kick in occasionally, right?) and you better forget French wines. Even if he could afford, he never buys flowers as he is sure you don’t need them to feel loved. And you, my Beauty? Do you dedicate enough time for yourself to do whatever makes you happy? When was the last time you took a long bath or stayed in PJ all day? When did you say a compliment to yourself?
The flirt machine
He flirts like a natural element to live on and he is even not hiding it. He is happy to wink at the waitress or flirt with your colleauge while you stand next to him and he has no shame to stare at your neighbour. And you, my Beauty? While recognizing others’ values and beauty, do you give credit to yourself? XY being beautiful means you are less?
The man of habits
He is the one who acts always the same way and time. It may seem secure at first but after a while it becomes boring and kills the relationship in lack of excitement, novalty and that sparkle. And you, my Beauty? Is it always the same dress, the same weekly porgram and slowly you get stuck in your own routines? When was the last time you did something crazy? Not necessarily bungee jumping but something outside of your comfort zone? Whether it is a mini skirt or a movie on your own?
If you nodded frequently while reading this list, it is worth thinking it over: how would you expect someone to love you if you can’t love the woman looking back at you from the mirror? You expect him to respect and accept you but first you need to provide these yourself first so you can become the type of woman who is aware of her worth and ready to be loved. Are you ready?