Everybody wants to be happy. It may sound as a cliche but so true. Give it a thought: every act we perform is for the seek of happiness. We search for joy when looking for a partner; when we build a family to hear children’s laughter which brings us delight; we search for happiness when doing our daily work whether it is to pursue our dreams or complete a work for financial stability in order to make it possible spending money on whatever makes us happy.
Happiness is a decision and it is in your hand entirely. Do you want to focus ont he good and be grateful for all you have or you choose whining?
Fear less, love more!
Babies are born with two basic instinct fears: fear of falling and of loud noises. When any of those happen, they react with panick of crying. Every other fear we possess is acquired through a learning process throughout the years. We live in a society which tries to control us by fear. We have fear of faliure, fear of losing our beloved ones or our work and these feelings can take control over our own lives. We forget to love, to be passionate and live life happily. The same goes to our relationship with ourselves: what if I am not good enough? What if I am not attractive enough? What if I am not a desireable woman?
These fears though can be unlearned and eventually we all can experience the liberating feeling of getting rid off them. Take the control of your own life to your hands which is not overshadowed by fear. Despair can poison our relationship with others so no wonder it has the same effect on the relationship we have with ourselves.
Every single negative and dreadful thought you have about yourself slowly becomes your reality. You believe that you are not attractive enough since this is what you tell yourself every day. You believe that the size of your waist weighs more than your values and your physical measures will make Him call you after a beautiful date or those centimetres will influence whether your partner buys you flowers on your anniversary or not.
Start loving more!
For me happiness is being in love. I love how Marco cheers me up in my darkest moments; I love how my mom says my nickname „Zsuzsika” in her tinkling voice; I love how my friends understand me from a frown without having to speak; I love receiving emails and comments from you as those are the most precious feedbacks to reassure me that my passion and dream are valid. So many things I love it is hard to list all. I encourage you to count your blessings which make you happy, instead of drowning into your fears. You can improve your relationship with yourself by that „love note” list I mentioned a few times. Start writing down all things you love about yourself whether it is your smile, your enthusiasm or your cooking skills. I assure you it will be a long list once you approach yourself with love.
I know that you are worth it, you are a Beauty With Plus who has all that certain PLUS within so it is time to focus on them instead of your fears!