Many people misunderstand what self-confidence really means. A confident woman is not the one walking into a room with her nose up in the air, thinking she is better than everyone else. Real confident woman walks in and without comparing herself to others she knows that she is unique and has her own values.
If you constantly compare yourself to others you are destined to failure and disappointment. Why should you become a copy of someone else? Why would you like to be just like some other girl? Don’t forget that it’s way better to be original, to be imperfectly perfect than being a (cheap) copy of someone else. Instead of constantly watching other people’s values, it is time to choose yourself to be the focus of your attention. I have already suggested creating that „list” but here it is one more time:
Take a piece of paper and start writing down the things you actually love about yourself. The world tries to drive our focus on the outside beauty but it is time to open up your world and perspective. Of course your beautiful eyes must be on this list too but don’t stop there. Other people love your sense of humour? Are you always punctual with work deadlines? Are you a good listener with much empathy to deal with your girlfriend’s/colleague’s/neigbour’s problems? Finally you managed to bake an actual cake? There are million things you can love about yourself and you can be proud of so it is time to shift your focus!
You can keep this list in your bag and add 1-2 things every day as a reminder so when having a bad day all you have to do is to re-read and feel better about yourself. It will help you to realize: you are unique, valuable and lovable! (and check my freebies under “Download it” as you will find some help to create your list!)
A cup of happiness with Susie
(my inspirational column on Tchibo Hungary’s Facebook page)